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Potty Training – 5 days in

A new milestone for our tot is upon us… we’re officially in the middle of potty training Ben! We’re five days in right now and I’m over the moon at how well it’s going.

We’re taking a very specific approach, as laid out in the newly famous “Oh Crap! Potty Training” book. This approach essentially makes you go from 100% diapers to 100% no diapers with the snap of a finger {and an enormous amount of subsequent effort and patience}. There’s no middle-ground of wearing diapers and then practicing going potty – it cuts straight to the chase and you’re just done with diapers, no ifs, ands or buts. Well, with one exception — sleeping.

It took a few weeks to read the book, get on board, mentally prepare ourselves and wait for the weather to cooperate. Once it did, we pulled the trigger and now we’re five days closer to having a potty trained child.

The first day was very challenging and I think overwhelming for us all. It was so new and it did not go quite how we expected {turns out Ben can hold it for a looooooooong time!}. Once we eased up on day two things started to fall into place. It was a very good learning opportunity for us all.

Right now, at the end of day five, we’re starting to get more comfortable with the idea of getting out for very short jaunts – i.e. a short walk around the block, mayyyybe a trip to the park. It’s still nerve-wracking for us to venture too far away, mainly because it’s so new and different and we haven’t done it yet. And full-size public toilets are wayyyy more intense and sparse than the little Baby Bjorn potty we can carry around the house/yard with us wherever we go.

So! The next steps in our process are to get out of the house and jump to the next level of communicating with Ben about using the potty. Right now we’re telling him to use it. We’d like to be able to ask if he’s got to go and trust his response. And, the end goal, of course is for him to be the one telling us he’s gotta go. I think that’s a few weeks away, though.

In any case, we’re on track and so proud of our little boy. It has been so endearing and makes our hearts overflow with pride and joy to watch Ben learning a new life skill. The best part, though, is seeing how proud of himself he is.

Building the Lodge: Framing!

The forecast for the weekend looked pretty chilly and wet. We decided to push potty training back a week {sunshine works better for us} and ultimately do a quick impromptu day trip out to Leavenworth to check out the progress on our house and seek out better weather.

We had a nice Saturday hanging out around our neighborhood and mostly staying dry, then Sunday morning, packed up the car after breakfast and headed towards the mountains. It’s pretty amazing how different the weather can be on one side of the mountains from the other – driving through Stevens Pass it was 39 degrees and pouring with a fresh snowline a bit above us, then as we descended {and nervously checked the weather because we were grossly unprepared for rain} the mountains the rain dried up and the skies cleared. It was a picture-perfect day in Leavenworth.

We scoped out the house, walked around the property and had a perfect picnic in our yard. It was a very memorable day, for sure.

Things over at The Lodge are really taking shape! Since we were there for Ben’s birthday two weeks ago, half of the first floor was framed and most of the second floor {a half story/loft} was framed. They need to frame the two-story great room on the main level and a few more things upstairs on the second level.

We’ve been making tremendous progress over the last few weeks with making decisions. It’s unbelievable the number of decisions we need to make. Thankfully it’s less overwhelming than I expected at this point.

Our builder broke ground and started framing about a month earlier than we expected so I feel like we’re still playing catch up with all of the decisions we need to make. It’s been so fun to see things come together and really start to imagine what the house will look like when it’s done.

The best part, though, is imagining our family and the memories we’ll be able to make at The Lodge.

Two Months and Counting!

I’m officially two months away from my due date with baby #2. It sure came up quickly! I’m over the moon to report that all is well with this little girl and that I really have nothing to report. It is a very refreshing feeling to have a boring, standard pregnancy and I hope that keeps up.

Baby girl is a mover and a grower! At my ultrasound early this week she weighed in at 4 pounds – already at almost 31 weeks, she’s nearly a pound heavier than Ben was when he was born at 33 weeks.

The ultrasound confirmed that she’s head down – head way down – and just hanging out, practicing breathing and doing a lot of moving. From about 28-30 weeks I was pretty uncomfortable while she settled in and then it seems like she re-positioned herself and since then, I’ve been feeling really well. Since she flipped to be head down I’ve hardly even had any heartburn, which has been so, so very appreciated!

Now that we’re getting to the homestretch we are starting to prepare our house for having a baby and get our ducks in a row with logistics. We just found out that our au pair will be staying with us for an additional nine months past her original contract date {until September 2019} so we’ve got childcare squared away for the next year.

We’re all set for the initial round of clothes for her and I’ve started the big task of organizing Ben’s closet, which will become the “kids closet” very shortly. I guess we just need some diapers and a place for her to sleep and we’ll be all set for her to arrive?!

 

Ben is 24 Months Old!

We celebrated Ben’s second birthday last week with a big family trip over the mountains to Leavenworth, followed by mini celebrations all week long to honor the sweet little life of our boy. It seems like he’s grown up and changed so much in the last week – he really turned two. We’ve had a lot of firsts and are so excited to see what the “terrific twos” are all about.

Ben’s 24-month stats:

  • Weight: 25 pounds, 2 ounces {15-25th percentile}
  • Height: 33 3/4 inches {25th-40th percentile}
  • Number of teeth: 12
  • Clothing size: no change here – all over the board – very, very brand dependent!  2T for tops. Bottoms are so funny – he’s still in 12-18m at the very largest, but still fits into some 9-12m bottoms. He’s very difficult to buy clothes for!
  • Shoe size: size 6 toddler!
  • Favorite foods: cottage cheese, smoothies, Grandpa Fred’s burgers, broccoli & rice casserole
  • Favorite activities: singing “Wheels on the Bus”, doing things himself, watching videos of diggers, pushing toys, playing with Jackson, reading books, dancing, running, climbing, being silly with dada.

In the last month Ben has turned into “Bossy Ben” which, for now, is hilarious. I love hearing his very strong opinion about certain things – for example, that it’s not okay for anyone but dada to sit in dada’s spot at the dining room table. Ben is very good at expressing his opinion and preference. He very freely says “no way” and we’re starting to work on that becoming “no thank you” though it’s still pretty funny hearing him say “no way” all the time.

The big themes we’ve been seeing for the last 6-8 months have been around communication and that’s no different right now. We’re working on pronouns {btw – I’m done referring to myself in third person – once I mostly stopped that I realized how ridiculous it is. I think all it does is confuse him!} and complete sentences that include please and thank you. Ben has been asking “did you hear that?” or “what is that?” alllllll the time, which is so fun to start to get a closer glimpse of what’s going on in his mind.

Definitely along with the bossiness and communication comes manipulation, ignoring us and tantrums. Ben’s doctor told us that with his vocabulary and communication abilities he’d start to try to manipulate us earlier than most kids – yeah, we’re already there. It’s really funny. Tantrums are mostly avoidable at this point but of course depending on the circumstances there’s no way around them. Ben is very strong-willed and stubborn and has clear preferences, so talking him through things in difficult-for-him situations is critical. Alex is really good about diffusing the tough moments – mostly through humor or doing something to annoy Ben {not sure how that works but it does!}. Naturally, as a toddler, Ben feels feelings very strongly, though it’s also very mood/sleep/hunger dependent.

Finally it seems like learning colors is starting to click with Ben! That’s been really fun – up until about the last week or so I didn’t think he had any understanding of what different colors were, but now it’s clear that he’s getting it. I’ve been really working on it, so it’s nice to see the concept sinking in.

We just ordered a little glider board for our stroller because Ben wants to be an independent walker and not always a rider. The glider board goes under the parent push handle and is like a little spot for him to stand and hold on, rather than sit in his chair. He frequently requests to to get out and walk, so this is sort of a happy medium if we are out on a longer walk and he needs a ride but doesn’t want to sit.

 

Over the weekend we went for our first family walk without the stroller. We took Jackson up to the park on Sunday morning and per Ben’s request, left the stroller at home. Ben was a stellar listener and stayed with us and asked to hold hands when we crossed the street. It was wayyyyy less exhausting and chaotic than I expected!

For the last month or so we have been sloooooowlyyyy pulling off the bandaid of providing way too much support to Ben when he goes to sleep at night. Last weekend we ripped that bandaid right off and Ben is officially putting himself to sleep unsupported. I was 100% the barrier and finally when he turned two I became ready to put him in his crib, say goodnight and then walk out and close the door. We had a lot of conversations with him about the change and he handled it so much better than I expected! When we left the room he just laid down, cuddled up with his stuffed animals and fell asleep. There was absolutely no issue whatsoever. I guess he’s been ready for a while!

We are approaching the end of diapers! Alex and I are pulling the plug and starting potty training this weekend. I’m pretty excited to see how it goes and how he grasps the concept. It is so fun to watch him learn a new skill and see how proud of himself he is. We’ll do a two-phase approach where wake-times are diaper-free effective immediately and forever, then sleep-time will still be with a diaper for the time being since Ben still sleeps in a crib. Wish us luck!

Our little mover has become quite the climber! Ben is so agile and athletic – I continue to be amazed by him at the playground. He’s getting stronger and able to climb and pull himself up on things, hang from bars and be more sturdy all the time. He tested out the “big kid” swing for the first time when we were in Leavenworth and while we’re not ready to push him very high, he’s totally got it.

I can’t believe all of the “big kid” things that Ben is doing now. He really, really turned into a two-year old.

I think this will probably be my last month-by-month update about Ben. Having this blog as a way to keep track of our family, watch Ben grow and help our family stay on top of what’s going on with us has been so wonderful. I sometimes use it as a journal, tracking things for myself, and other times use it as a way to spread the word about what’s going on in our little lives. Thank you for reading!

Happy 2nd Birthday Ben!

Our little boy is officially TWO! I want to say “I can’t believe it” but really, I can. He’s totally two. And terrific. We have been celebrating his birthday for about the last week – we took a very memorable trip to Leavenworth {post coming soon!} with Ben’s grandparents and we’ve been spoiling him all week long.

It is so remarkable all that Ben has learned, discovered and done in his short little life, and even just in the last year. Alex and I have absolutely loved watching his sweet personality grow and emerge. We adore how curious and inquisitive he is {“what is that?” “did you hear that?” are some of our favorite questions he has been asking lately.}, the natural independence he’s developing and how much of an entertainer he is.

Ben continues to be extremely active and loves to run and climb. He has surprisingly impressive balance – I think he’s got a lot of natural athleticism. Also, he’s going to give me a heart attack real, real soon.

Watching Ben figure out how to walk was one of the most incredible experiences I’ve ever had. It was a slow process because he skipped walking and went straight to running. I think it’s easier to master walking first?

Ben started talking around 14 months – by his 15 month checkup he was saying about 15 words. I remember he picked up on the baby sign language really quickly and still uses signs in addition to saying words like “please” and “more” – especially if he really wants something. Today it’s impossible to estimate Ben’s vocabulary, but I think it’s somewhere between 300-500 words and growing exponentially by the day. We just love having conversations with him and listening to him sing songs. It’s adorable knowing what’s going through his mind.

One of the most mementos events of the Ben’s second year was our land acquisition out in Leavenworth. Alex and I absolutely cannot wait to be able to raise our kids having the experience of spending their weekends in the mountains. We are working so hard to make this a reality and it’s so, so fun picturing Ben and his siblings running around on our beautiful property.

We had some really fun family vacations this last year where we got to spend quality time together with Ben – our trips to Seabrook and Vancouver last summer, just before Ben started to walk, and more recently, our trip down to Arizona. Family time is so important to Alex and me and at this point, it’s our number one choice over pretty much anything else. This little boy means the world to us.

Ben has come to love and regularly request steamed milk when we go to the coffee shop. If you know me very well, we go to the coffee shop a lot. Last fall sometime I got Ben his first “steamer” and it slowly became a little thing we do. I can’t help it – it’s just so cute watching him with his special little coffee cup. He loves it, I love it. It’s adorable.

Alex and I feel so very fortunate to have such an incredible park and playground just four blocks from our house. Spending the day up at the park is one of our favorite family activities. It has been an absolute blast to watch Ben grow up at the park and go from only being able to go in the swings at this time last year to graduating to playing with trucks in the sandbox, crawling around the woodchips, practicing walking in the grass, then quickly learning to climb the toddler play structure and go down the slide with help and then one day not long after, learning how to walk up the big kid steps and go down the big slide all by himself.

While we have so much on the horizon this year for our little Benjamin {becoming a big brother, finishing construction in the mountains, starting legit Spanish-immersion preschool, potty training…} it’s so much fun to look back on our memorable year with Ben. Here are some of my favorite photos or moments/memories from Ben’s second year… {Side note: I forgot how bald he was for sooo long!}

Happy birthday, Benjamin!

Camano Island Getaway

Living in the Puget Sound area we are blessed to be a short drive away from some incredible spots, one of which is Camano Island. Some of our best friends, Carrie and Patrick, recently moved up there and invited us to come spend the day with them at their home. It’s also possible we invited ourselves up. I can’t remember. In any case, we spent the day on Camano Island on Saturday and it felt like such a getaway.

Our friends have a fantastic setup – a great open floor plan, perfect for the kids, with a sprawling and private 2+ acre backyard, plus a beautiful and sunny back deck overlooking the yard. They’ve got everything we needed for a kids play day and for the adults to kick back a little bit when we weren’t busy parenting.

{Grass for days! Ben LOVED pushing and riding in Roslyn’s little coupe.}

We loved spending the day up on the island and it was so fun to have Dave, Trish and little Liam up there, too. Liam, Roslyn and Ben were all born within 3.5 months of each other, so now, as 2-year olds {or almost 2!} they’re all moving at pretty much the same pace. I mean, except for Ben because he never slows down, but you get what I mean… The three tots played really well together and it was so fun to see how different their personalities and interests are.

{Liam turned 2 in February.}

{Roslyn just turned two at the end of April. She and Ben are almost exactly a month apart in age.}

{The youngest in the pack…. little Ben turns 2 in 10 days!}

Most of the day was spent at the house; however most of my photos were taken down at the beach, a 15 minute walk from their house. It’s a very rocky beach lined with driftwood and cooooold water with a nice view of Whidbey Island.

{“Dada take my picture!”}

We had such a nice day – wonderful company, a beautiful landscape, delicious food and so many memories! We can’t wait to invite ourselves/be invited back 😉

Hello Third Trimester!

Well that went by fast! I cannot believe I only have 12 weeks until my August 8th due date. {Alex, did you realize that!?} That really snuck up on me, and we’re so very happy to be starting the third trimester of my pregnancy.

So far the third trimester has come in like a lion. Does that mean it’s going to go out like a lamb with a super easy delivery!? I hope so!

Now that we’ve hit the last trimester I’ll be spending a lot more time at the doctor – my visits are up to biweekly. I have my next growth ultrasound in 2 weeks and that will help dictate the frequency from there on out.

I had an ultrasound two weeks ago, at 26 weeks, and all is well. Our doctor even went as far as saying the ultrasound was “perfect” – I looked at her like she was crazy. I’m just not used to having such short, boring, drama-free appointments! Alex and I were both waiting for the “but…….” and then it never happened.

So far in this pregnancy I’ve had 6 ultrasounds plus an echo cardiogram. Alex and I counted a while ago and by the end of my pregnancy with Ben I had more than 30 ultrasounds! Unbelievable. Here’s hoping that we’ve only got a handful more and that they’re all normal.

It was fun to read back on the start of my third trimester with my pregnancy with Ben. At that point we hadn’t quite found out yet about my complication and I was physically feeling really well. In both pregnancies by this time I’d begun to tire very easily. It’s a little different chasing around an almost 2-year old though! The biggest differences right now with this pregnancy are general discomfort and the fact that this baby is on the opposite end of the size spectrum. I’ll take the discomfort over the lengthy stay in antepartum and preemie baby!

In my most recent doctor’s appointment I learned that my due date is essentially the latest I would go in this pregnancy. If I don’t spontaneously go into labor or have an unforeseen complication earlier on they would schedule a c-section between weeks 39-40. Everyone is hoping for a VBAC though! Since I had a c-section previously, induction is not an option, they’d jump right to c-section if the time comes and she doesn’t arrive on her own. It’s nice to have an end point, though, and know that they won’t let it go much past my due date.

At this point we’re really trying to wrap our heads around what’s on the horizon. It cracks me up how different prep for baby #1 and baby #2 is. Until last week I had yet to buy a single thing for this little girl. I’m not sure what inspired me, but last week I ordered a ton of clothes for her. It’s fun to envision a style for a little girl and get excited for a girl. I’m definitely into pink but not at all into frilly anything. It’s fun to think back on the first few months with Ben and what we did and how we dressed him to try and imagine how those first few months will look like with our little girl. I’m definitely in favor of pink! 🙂

{I had fun opening this box from Burt’s Bees Baby and the one that followed it from Baby Gap. I hadn’t realized how sweet it is shopping for your baby girl. Alex got excited to see all the pink, too!}

I know now, too, not to take all of the tags off and wash everything right away because I have no idea how big she’ll be. Same with diapers – I’m not stocking up on one brand right away because who knows if she’ll fit into that brand well. Babies sizes are so all over the place you just never know!

Thankfully we barely need anything for this little girl, so we’re working on going through Ben’s old stuff and coming up with a good list. A lot is different this time around!

 

Ben is 23 Months Old!

That means he’s one month away from his second birthday! It’s crazy that Alex and I have started responding to the question of his age with “he’s almost two!” Man time flies!!

Ben’s 23-month stats:

  • Weight: 24 pounds, 6 ounces {10th percentile}
  • Number of teeth: 12
  • Clothing size: no change here – all over the board! Anything new I’m sizing up to 2T for tops. Bottoms are so funny – he’s still in 12-18m at the very largest, but still fits into some 9-12m bottoms. He’s very difficult to buy clothes for!
  • Shoe size: just moved up to size 6 toddler!
  • Favorite foods: cottage cheese, smoothies, crackers, any kind of pork, broccoli, chickpeas

Favorite activities:

  • Pushing anything – dump trucks, shopping carts, his stroller, things that don’t have wheels
  • Singing the ABCs in English and Spanish {!!!}
  • Going down the slide
  • Running
  • Anything to do with a digger {watching digger videos, looking at diggers in person or in pictures}
  • Climbing
  • Singing songs {The Wheels on the Bus, “No More Monkeys Jumping on the Bed!” and the ABCs are favorites right now}
  • Cuddling his stuffed animals {“Lamby” and “puppy” are favorites right now}
  • Practicing new skills
  • Making people laugh

Our favorite phrases Ben says:

  • “Have a good day!”
  • “How was your day?”
  • “Good morning mama!”
  • “What is that?”
  • This will always, always be the favorite: “Love you mama!” (or dada!)
  • “I need some help!”
  • “Ready to go!”

Big milestones:

  • Learning how to count to 10! {In English and Spanish!}
  • Actually understanding what counting is – he’s starting to count actual items, not just say “1, 2, 3…”
  • Switching to a booster seat instead of a high chair
  • Practicing putting boots and shoes on
  • Using the potty

This last month has been one where we have noticed some of the more significant developmental changes in Ben. Aside from pretty much mastering the ABCs and counting to 12 in English and 10 in Spanish, the biggest thing we’ve noticed is how he has started truly stringing sentences together. He’s figuring out pronouns and how sentences are constructed. It is so remarkable watching him learn.

Ben started a new art class mid-month. He’s always shown a little interest in art and I figured it would be handy to have super messy art projects take place outside of our home where I am not responsible for 100% of the mess. So far so good – he seems pretty into it. If nothing else, it’s something to do and he’s exposed to new things.

Additionally, once a week, Ben goes to music class, and has since the beginning of January. He loves it and I can’t get enough of him coming home singing the songs from his class. He is very much into music – Ben loves dancing and singing.

We’re entering our last month of Ben’s co-op preschool – he has been going twice a week for the whole school year. It has been a really positive experience overall, aside from the initial overwhelmsion. Ben is exposed to other kids, different toys and activities, a bit of structure and some new snack ideas. Alex and I benefit tremendously from the parent educator who supports the class. Her tips are invaluable. We’ll be sad to be done with co-op at the end of May.

The weather has been SO NICE the last week or two – we hit {or almost hit} 80 degrees last week and we brought some toys out into the backyard for Ben to play. He’s been loving his slide, playing with Jackson, pushing the dump truck or lawn mower {off, obviously} and just running around. Alex and I can’t help but sit back and imagine our future when we have opportunities like that. It’s so fun to picture what our life will be like sitting out on the deck of our mountain house watching our kids run around with Jackson.

We ended the month with a big bump on Ben’s head. Poor kiddo. He was so excited to be running over to his friend Maya at the park, tripped and fell and banged his head on the sidewalk. He’s become very resilient and was quick to settle down. It’s always amazing to me that the regular, routine stuff he does is what ends up resulting in an accident – it’s almost never the wild adventurous stuff, like climbing up a ladder, using the rock wall or trying to run down the slide. This kid is going to give me a heart attack.

We’ve got potty training on the horizon! Our intention is to start in June. He seems pretty ready so now Alex and I need to get ready {he’s always ready for things before we are!}. We got a little potty and a couple of “potty” books and Ben successfully used the potty three times the first day! We’ve since done some more research and are removing the potties until we’re really ready to dive in. I guess this “casual” approach of sometimes using the potty, sometimes not, is very hard for them to understand when the time comes to actually potty train and can prolong the process. Sooooo we’ll pick it back up in June!

Ben has become so independent and communicates very clearly when he wants or prefers something. Another thing we have on the horizon is working on Ben putting himself to sleep. We’ve been coddling him a little too much at bedtime and he’s been telling us he’s ready to do it on his own. Like with the potty training and so much else, he’s ready long before we are! Alex and I adore the pre-bedtime cuddles and the calm time when our boy sits still. We can still have that as we work towards Ben being a little more independent as he falls asleep.

I can hardly believe we’re entering Ben’s last month as a one-year old. He has really been looking and acting like a little boy lately. I hope he stays this sweet forever and ever.

Spring is Here!

Spring is really in the air here in Seattle. The cherry blossoms already peaked, the daffodils have come and mostly gone and now it’s tulip time! The weather is showing signs that it’s starting to turn into “spring” – which means still chilly temperatures and a lot of rain with a few nice days interspersed throughout the week. I’ve been loving watching the buds quickly turn into leaves and less so the weeds starting to multiply on our gravel driveway. Time to get out my gardening gloves, I guess!

In any case, it is truly spring here. Ben celebrated his first Easter {I don’t think we even acknowledged it last year?!} this year. It was fun to use Easter as an opportunity to welcome spring, eat some ham and freshen up some of his toys.

{No candy in this Easter basket! A cuddly lamb, some books, dot markers and sidewalk chalk for our tot this year.}

We’ve gotten the spring cleaning bug in more of an organizational and out with the old in with the new kind of a way this season.

{Traded in my “Let it Snow” mug for this one! And then we tossed out our sub-par coffee maker and traded it in for a less fancy, better quality producing Bonativa coffee maker.}

I did a major pantry overhaul and completely re-arranged the shelving in our black hole closet under the stairs. It’s amazing how making a few tiny adjustments can go so far! I also re-arranged just one shelf in my baking cabinet and it has made it so much more organized and easy to find things {I already had the containers on the bottom two shelves}. Now we just need to re-design Ben’s closet to make room for his sister. It’s so overwhelming even contemplating how we’re going to hold another child’s wardrobe in our little house!

Some of my favorite organizational things have been little clear organizational bins for food {you can see them sort of up on the third shelf above}, along with adding baskets and a big canned organizational system. My absolute favorite change, though, was being able to stand up my baking sheets vertically instead of stacking them on top of each other. These changes have made a world of a difference in our house!

There’s always a never-ending list of things to do, especially as the seasons change, and we are happy to welcome the warmer weather, birds chirping and the thought of sunshine. Oh, and thank goodness the window washers come this week!

{Even when it rains, though, it’s ok… we’ve got rain boots and raincoats to keep us dry as we go out to count the worms….}

Baby #2 Update

Like many pregnancies, this one has been filled with ups and downs. I officially reached and passed the “halfway” point and am currently 22 weeks {or 5 months} pregnant.

So far, there have been a lot of similarities with my pregnancy with Ben and some definite differences. Neither pregnancy has involved food cravings, oddly enough. Both were filled with food aversions, particularly in the first trimester, some nausea and a whole lot of heartburn. This one includes some significant lower back pain {darn!!!!} and so far, especially in the second trimester, a “normal” amount of energy.

I remember loving the second trimester in my pregnancy with Ben. I felt almost normal, and that’s sort of the case with this one, aside from the back pain. I’ve been sleeping really well almost my whole pregnancy so far and surprisingly have had less sheer exhaustion than I remember having with Ben. I’m staying up until a reasonable adult time in the evenings and waking up feeling well-rested, which is a joyous feeling, especially since I know what’s coming once this baby girl arrives.

This pregnancy, though, is a little different. I’m more experienced and less naive. While I realized quickly in my first pregnancy that once you see that “yes” on the pregnancy test, you’re never “out of the woods” so to speak, on anything, forever, in the rest of your life.

Experiencing a serious pregnancy complication, as I did with Ben, and living through a month in the NICU is enough to change anyone’s perception of future pregnancies. My worries with the second pregnancy have nothing to do with the color of the walls, whether the theme for our nursery will be woodland creatures or airplanes, nor finding the best “organic, all-natural crib mattress” on the market.

My concerns with my second pregnancy include the hope of a healthy baby at the end of a full-term pregnancy, wondering what labor is like {I never labored before delivering Ben via c-section}, how we’ll adjust to life with two, whether I’ll still get my morning and evening cuddles with Ben, if I’ll be able to breastfeed this time, and hope hope hoping this baby will adjust to napping on-the-go so I can keep up with my toddler. And let’s be real, baby #2 is probably sleeping in a pack & play in our closet.

{19 weeks pregnant}

During the first half of the pregnancy my doctor’s appointments were fairly regular, though because it’s a high-risk pregnancy they included additional ultrasounds. In my mid-point ultrasound this week we got a big scare. The doctor told us after the ultrasound that the baby had a heart defect, which in it of itself could be just fine, but it could be an indicator of something more serious. Fast-forward two nail-biting days to our echocardiogram where the pediatric cardiologist tells us there is absolutely nothing wrong with our girl’s heart and that it’s perfectly normal. It seems as though the ultrasound was mis-read.

In any case, our babe’s little heart is not the only thing developing normally – she is too! We got a confirmation that she is indeed a she {a little doubt in the last ultrasound} – and she’s huge! According to the ultrasound she is in the 85th percentile for size {so that means if she was compared against 100 babies, she’d be bigger than 85 of them!}. Wowza! Our fingers are crossed that she keeps on growing normally and that we get to meet her in late July or early August.

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Looking back on my pregnancy with Ben:

  • 20-week post
  • 24-week post {and for the record, I don’t think you’re technically 6 months pregnant until 26 weeks. Oopsies! First time mama mistake!}